It's been quite the afternoon. I can't write about it yet. I'm still reeling from it emotionally and need to process a bit more....I haven't even processed through it with Tdub yet. I will write about it later. I did have "the talk" with son#1 and Tulip. More on that later.
Here's a question. Please comment. Let me know what you think about this. What if.....we are born not really sexually attracted to any certain gender in particular. What if.....we are born with certain personality traits and temperament.....and.....according to the way we are raised (or, "yanked up" as I've humorously heard it put), we develop our sexuality. There's such a myriad of sexual preferences out there. Really. That would explain genetics and biology playing a factor and dispell the issue of there actually being a "choice", wouldn't it? Maybe not. I'm just, again, thinking out loud (in type) here.
Gotta run.
Keep praying for me...I DO appreciate it.
love to all,
grace
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Will do (with the prayers). I am still thinking about your question but am on my way out of town. Why I'm actually still on the computer is beyond me. I'll try to answer when I return.
I do think it's possible we are born with a particular tendency. I believe more and more that nature has a lot to do with our behavior (I have adopted children plus biological children and would have to be blind not to notice the difference in behavior which can't be explained by their upbringing).
As a youngster, I always thought that sexual orientation was just something a person was born with, because, experientially, for me, that was how it happened. I just was just SSA'd, as we say, from earliest memory.
As I got older my experiences seemed to support that theory because I met so many gay people who came from all different kinds of backgrounds-- rich, poor, strict, permissive, dysfunctional, supportive, urban, rural, Catholic, Mormon, Jewish, freethinking, divorced parents, married parents, swinger parents, you name it.
So my belief, or bias, or whatever you want to call it is that our sexual attractions have a strictly biological/neurological origin.
Wait. That's not exactly what I meant to say. I meant to say I believe that sexual orientation has a strictly biological/neurological origin. That's not the same thing as attraction, I think.
Thanks everyone for your comments and continued prayers. I'm a bit behind on everything right now. Yesterday afternoon my overhead screen (a large metal thing) fell from the ceiling in my room and bonked me in the head giving me a large lump and a slight concussion. I'm fine. Going back to school today. But, just didn't have any time at all to reply to any of this last night. Will do so later!
much love,
grace
OUCH! That must have hurt!
As far as your question goes, all I know is that I don't know. My hunch is that the origins of our "sexual preferences" are very complicated, like you suggest. But it's just a hunch.
I mean, I can remember always feeling different, but did I *discover* that my differentness was all about being gay, or did I just start to interpret it that way, for whatever reason? I just don't know.
Still praying!
Thanks everyone for your thoughts so far. I like what Cole said "no matter what anyone says the sexuality issue is very murky". It really is. Hence, the questioning. Which, is fine. It's the arguing, name-calling, and outright unChrist-like behavior about it that gets to me most. The bottom line, for me, is this; I believe same sex acts are sinful (NO MORE sinful than my sinful acts) and yet God LOVES us and sent His son to reclaim us for Himself. Those who believe otherwise, that God designed some people to be attracted to the same sex....also believe in God's love. (I'm speaking of the Christians here) We are free entities that way and, in the end, we can believe whatever we want. He gave us that choice. What we believe doesn't change absolute truth. It does have the potential to change our relationship with our creator....but....again, that's something we each have to work out for ourselves.
I'm rambling now. But thanks again for the comments. I'm feeling a bit better this morning but sporting a lovely black eye. Tdub better be nice to me or I'll start telling people he punched me! ha!
grace
Hey Grace... good question!
Answering it took me in unexpected directions, which I talk through at my blog.
Take care...
Thanks Steve! I'll go check that out!
love,
grace
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