Thursday, August 21, 2008


So, the saying goes, "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

Really? I mean, is it? At some point, you've got to wonder.

I did a tiny bit of research about that saying and found out that Tennyson wrote it while grieving over a friend who'd died suddenly. We must typically apply it to romantic love because it's harder to reason it out when the risk you're taking to love someone is of a romantic nature.

If you've read here long, you've heard me talk about love being a choice. And I've referred to romantic love in those terms as well because ultimately, I believe it IS a choice. The part that's SO frustrating and that is NOT a choice is that part that makes you attracted to someone in the first place to the point that you have a choice to make about loving them. That's the part that really wears me out at this point in my particular life. It's so unpredictable sometimes, and just when you think you have it figured out, it will turn on you and bite you in the butt.

So, this is my cryptic way of working through some of this stuff without actually saying much about it. Sorry. But, hey, it's my blog. *wink*

More details to come. You guys know I never (or rarely) disappoint when it comes to details.

love and grace,

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-bill said...

Context! Context! Context! Everything depends on context.

Tennyson's words adequately express his heart in the midst of his hurt, but those who attempt to appropriate them as their own are often missing the main thing that makes them appropriate.

How do I know this is true? Well, next time you hurt the feelings of someone you care about try looking them in the eyes and saying, "Love means never having to say your are sorry."

Still, the love of God never fails. For this I am so very thankful!!

a spiritual oasis

grace said...

Hey Bill!

That movie quote you to me.
I've never understood that one at ALL in any context.

I can't think of one person I've ever loved that I haven't needed to say "i'm sorry" to.

I agree with you about context...which is why I looked it up! :)

Thanks for keeping in touch, Bill.