Friday, October 27, 2006


Drew and I are about to head out to spend the weekend with my parents in OK. So much has happened in the past few months, but one of the greatest occurrences has been a complete reconciliation between me and my parents (mostly mother). They had their "troubles" with Tdub. And yet, after all this, they have become willing to listen and try to understand somewhat of the dynamic that was going on within the marriage and my profound commitment to "sticking it out".

The greatest result of all this, for me, is that now I am able to communicate much more plainly and effectively with my parents about what's going on in my life. I'm 43 years old and I've remained in a distrustful state with them for many years. And now, because of healing on BOTH sides, I am able to speak to them plainly, and even disagree, and maintain the love, support, and encouragement I've longed for all along from them (her).

My parents were here in Texas the weekend we moved in. They left after Drew and I had gone to school, and when I got home my mom had left a little note on my kitchen table for me. In it, she said...IN WRITING...."I'm proud of you, you're doing a good job." OH. MY. GOSH.

God is faithful!

love and grace,

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Angie said...

What an incredible "side effect?" Not sure what to call it, except really good! Mother/daughter relationships are known for their complexities, for sure. So, that note is a TREASURE!

Maybe with these barriers down your folks will have an opportunity to get a deeper look at the woman *we* all know and love so much... Grace!

Enjoy your trip, Pam!

robert said...

I echo Angie's comments on this one. Parents so often are a love/hate part of our lives. I am glad that your parents have become part of your support.

I regret that so much has happened so closely in yours, Tdubs,' and your 4 boys' lives, especially with the passing of Aunt B. I hope that Tdub and the boys get the same sort of emotional support that has come to you from so many people and in so many amazing ways.

Jay said...

I'm glad you've gotten to a point where you can be more open with your parents. I wish I could get to that point, and I hope I don't wait too long, or I might miss out on some things.

God bless,

rise & shine said...

I came across your blog via dm and read your postings occasionally. I can’t imagine what you must be going through, and can only say that your tenacity in the face of such circumstances these last few months, has been an inspiration.

If anything, your husband’s decision to stop fighting (for now), has strengthened mine to continue.